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Single MomA Single Mom Raising a Baby
Then reality hit. In December I found out I was pregnant and I was not married, I was so scared to tell anyone including my boyfriend. But everyone seemed to take it fine until February 16, that's right, two days after Valentines Day and my boyfriend decides to tell me that he doesn't think we are working out, but that he will always be there for our child. After about a month of keeping in touch I never heard from him again. When I found out I was pregnant I was already 4 months along, so when he left I was 5 ½ months along. I felt so ashamed that he left so I didn't tell anyone, not even my mom. But I also knew I couldn't get stressed out or worry about it because it might hurt my baby so I kept all my feeling to myself until about 2 months after he left when I decided to let everyone know. I couldn't keep making excuses of where he was. I never thought I could ever be so strong as I was through it all but I knew there was a helpless little man inside depending on me. My family helped me out so much through the whole thing. They were very supportive and happy a new member was coming to our family. On the day Cody was born I called my ex to tell him I was in labor and told him if he would like, he could come down and be there He told me “ Well this is a big party day! I can't make it.” Cody was born on the fourth of July. I decided I wanted two of the strongest women in my life in the room when I had him, my mother and my Godmother-my aunt Linda. When he came out at 11:23pm July 4th 2003 we all had tears in our eyes and as soon as he was allowed in my father came running in and took so many picture I thought Cody was going to go blind from the flash. Being a single mother is very hard. I would be sitting at home with my son, who was screaming his head off with colic, thinking how my ex and all my friends were out there having such a good time and I was here with a screaming baby. But I made it through all of that with the help of my mother and father Then I went through the stage when thought I would never find another man again, but I did. I found my now boyfriend when Cody was only 6 months old and he treats Cody as he was his own. But I now know that even if it doesn't work out with him, I can make it with just me and my little man because, in the end, no matter what I have been through or what I'm going to go through, Cody is the most important man in my life. And I would never take back having my son because no matter how bad he gets or how much he pushes my last button, all it takes is him wrapping those little arms around me and giving me a hug and a kiss and it all becomes better. My son has taught me to be a stronger and a more responsible person, I have learned his needs come first and mine last. I have learned he doesn't care if I make mistakes now and then, he doesn't care how much I weigh and he doesn't care if I am getting gray hair. All he cares is that I will be there to chase monsters out of his closest, to hug him when he is sad, to play trucks with him and to love him forever. He is my son and I am his mother and no one could ever take that away from us. Now what am I going to tell him when he ask where is my dad, I don't know yet but I sure I will figure it out when the day comes and he will understand. So if you are a single parent struggling to get by, with bills piling up, kids screaming, not sure how you are going to put food in the house, or just stressed out by everything, just sit down and give your child a big hug and look into that precious little face and for a moment all your trouble will seem to disappear. Stay strong.
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